A great eulogy starts with getting together the right information so you can deliver the message to properly honor the person you’re writing about.
It’s an absolute honor to be asked to delivery a eulogy and it’s not something to be taken lightly.
What you don’t want is a speech without anecdotes, a speech without any personalization or a speech that just anyone could have written.
Honor Their Legacy
You want your audience to relate to the speech so that they can get a better sense of the person, as well as more information with which to honor their legacy.
Remember that there’s no right or wrong way to write a eulogy – just go with what works for you and what you feel comfortable with.
I’ve had others tell me that chronologically listing achievements is boring, but the best eulogy I’ve written did just that interspersed with anecdotes and personal information.
There’s no right or wrong way to write a eulogy, but I hope the tips on this site provide you with a few guideposts as you go along.
3 Sections For Your Eulogy
So let’s break writing the speech down into 3 sections:
- The Facts – who you are, what relationship you are to the deceased, important dates in the deceased’s life and important achievements.
- The Anecdotes – gather together 3-4 anecdotes that best represent the achievements or interests of the deceased. I generally get these by speaking with those close to the deceased.
- Closing – a great closing is critical to a great eulogy. I always try to finish on the positive note (whilst still acknowledging the sadness of the occasion) that we all knew the person and had the chance to enjoy his gifts and company.
Something like this:
“And I’m sure we’ll all remember him the way they do – with great affection. With love. With respect. As a simple and humble man. And as a gentle man.
Today we say “Thank You” Dave for who you were to us.
We give thanks to have known Dave or Dad or Grand-Dad or Uncle Dave. We give thanks that we’ve had the chance to have a beer, a chat and spend some time with a good and decent man.
We’ll miss you, but we know the truth that however sad we feel right now our lives are so much richer for having had you in them.
Vale Dave Davidson – and may you Rest in Peace.”
Tie That Eulogy Together
Npow you have the right information, it’s a matter of tieing the eulogy together.
Rather than some long-winded ideas on how to do this I’ve provide samples of beginnings, middles and ends over here, along with 10 sample eulogies for instant download.